Busting Sex Myths in India: What Experts Really Say About Duration, Performance, and Intimacy
New Delhi: Sex and intimacy are still considered taboo topics in many parts of India, leading to a culture where myths and misinformation often overpower scientific facts. In a recent episode of Figuring Out With Raj Shamani (aired June 26), Dr Sankalp Kumar Jain, certified sexologist and founder of AskDrJain, Arunveda, ErectiCare Pro, and Fertimacy, set the record straight on some of the most prevalent myths about sex.
From unrealistic expectations to misinformation about performance, Dr Jain offered candid and medically accurate insights that challenge deep-rooted beliefs in Indian society.
“No, You Can’t Have Sex Non-Stop for 30 Minutes”
One of the most common misconceptions, according to Dr Jain, is the belief that sexual intercourse must last as long as what’s shown in pornographic content.
“The biggest destructive myth people believe in India is that you can have sex non-stop for 30 minutes like in porn videos,” said Dr Jain.
“In reality, most male performers in such content use injections like papaverine, which keeps the penis erect for an hour or more.”
These videos are edited and staged for entertainment — not education.
“There are also these ‘extra time condoms’ that contain numbing agents. They make the penis go numb and give the illusion of lasting longer,” he added.
What’s the Average Duration of Healthy Sex?
While pop culture may glorify marathon sessions, experts say that the average time for vaginal penetration during sex is actually much shorter — typically 5 to 7 minutes.
According to global studies and clinical consensus:
- Less than 2 minutes: Considered too short (could indicate premature ejaculation)
- 3 to 7 minutes: Normal and healthy
- 7 to 13 minutes: Ideal range
- More than 15 minutes: Unnecessary for most and often discomforting
“What matters more is emotional connection, foreplay, mutual satisfaction, and communication — not the clock,” says Dr Jain.
Performance Anxiety Is Rampant — and Misguided
One of the side effects of misinformation is the growing pressure on men to perform for long durations, which leads to:
- Performance anxiety
- Erectile dysfunction (ED)
- Relationship dissatisfaction
“I’ve seen many young men come to my clinic distressed because they can’t ‘last long enough’. But what they believe is ‘long enough’ is a false benchmark, created by porn and hearsay,” Dr Jain explained.
Taking Charge of Your Sexual Health
In a separate 2023 interview with HT Lifestyle, Dr Ritu Hinduja, fertility consultant at Nova IVF Fertility in Mumbai, shared eight tips to take better control of your sexual well-being:
- Prioritize safer sex – Use protection consistently
- Get regular checkups – For STIs and reproductive health
- Discuss openly with your partner – Consent and communication are key
- Don’t rely on internet myths – Trust credible medical sources
- Don’t compare your sex life with others
- Focus on mutual pleasure
- Be patient with your body – Stress, health, and age impact libido
- Seek help when needed – Don’t hesitate to consult a sexologist
Key Myths About Sex in India – And the Truth
| Myth | Truth |
|---|---|
| Sex should last at least 30 minutes | 5–7 minutes of penetration is normal and satisfying |
| Porn shows what real sex should be like | Porn is scripted, edited, and often uses drugs or devices |
| ‘Extra-time’ condoms are safe for regular use | These contain numbing agents that may reduce pleasure and sensitivity |
| Size matters most | Emotional connection and technique are far more important |
| Only men face performance pressure | Women too experience anxiety and need emotional safety |
Why We Need Better Sex Education
Dr Jain emphasized the urgent need for comprehensive sex education across India.
“We’re still far behind in giving our youth accurate, shame-free knowledge. When you don’t talk about it, myths grow. And those myths hurt people’s confidence, relationships, and mental health.”
According to a 2022 study by the National Family Health Survey, less than 15% of Indians have access to reliable sex education before adulthood.
Final Takeaway: Pleasure, Not Performance
Whether you're in a new relationship or with a long-term partner, experts agree on one thing: Good sex is not about duration, but satisfaction, safety, and connection.
And if you’re ever confused or anxious, the best thing to do is talk to a certified medical expert — not depend on social media or hearsay.
Disclaimer:
This article is intended for informational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice. Always consult a qualified health professional for any concerns related to your sexual or reproductive health.
